I am Not My Mother….

Someone from my church took the time out of her busy schedule to sit and talk with me. She sat and listened to me without judgment, etc. I got more out of our talk, than I ever have being in therapy. That talk, caused me to really dig deep within myself, my family and my faith.

My mother was someone that would give you the shirt off her back. She was the most loving, caring person I have ever known. Of course I’m a bit biased because she was my mother but it’s also who she genuinely was.

But she was also someone that didnt have boundaries in place. I know she wanted to become a nurse but “couldnt”. Whatever my father said, is how it was. The only time I ever saw her stand up to him was when she would drink; which only caused my father to beat her more. All in all, my mother didnt have a life of her own outside of my father.

Through my talk with my “sister” from church, I’ve come to understand how I’ve inherited so many of the negative traits from my mother, which I’m sure was passed down.

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Break The Cycle

The things the little girl (me) on the left went through are things no child (nor anyone) should ever have to endure.

I don’t know how I ended up not being killed due to some of the situations I was in. Having to do the things that I did, as a run-a-way, in order to survive on the streets.

Watching my mother be abused. Being abused (sexually) myself and not fully understanding it but knowing that it wasn’t right. But who do you tell when the abusers are people that are supposed to be the ones protecting you?!?

I make no apologies for what I share. Staying quiet continues to allow your abusers to have a hold on you. Staying quiet is why so many suffer in silence. Staying quiet is why generation after generation, endures some form of abuse. Staying quiet keeps you from healing.

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Survivors Mom Companion

In the US and globally, one in five women has a history of childhood maltreatment (physical, sexual, emotional abuse and/or neglect).

“Survivor Moms’ Companion is a psychoeducational program designed to help women with a history of childhood maltreatment and other trauma break the cycles of abuse and psychiatric vulnerability in their lives and the lives of the newly born”. Survivors Mom Companion

 The Survivor Moms’ Companion (SMC) course explains how past trauma can come up during pregnancy, birth and parenting. It teaches skills to manage that. Tutors can give emotional support too. One in 5 pregnant women has had childhood trauma. Sometimes memories, feelings or concerns about past abuse or neglect can affect moms during this important time. 

The question is, “Is it right for you?”  

Click the link below to learn more. Is SMC Right For You? (Opens into a PDF)